Prejudice

[errantember]

I was floating my mind over my general feelings about monogamy, and I finally arrived at a short opinion that I feel is correct.


No one has ever achieved happiness *because* of monogamy.

No couple has ever achieved happiness *because* of monogamy.

Discuss.



NOTE: This is basically a thought experiment rather than a perceived basic truth. My goal in defending the statement, if I have one, is to define the shape and limits of this idea in my mind, discover how well it meshes or conflicts with other ideas, and learn something about the assumptions we all make about relationships. I'm definitely *not* proposing that one relationships style is necessary better or more appropriate for everyone. More power to anyone who finds a style of loving relationship that makes them happy and successful, including those who identify it as monogamy.

SECOND NOTE: Did they change the editor? It took me like 10 minutes to figure out how to get an lj-cut to work, when in the past it has always just worked. The editor was trying to escape it out for some reason, and that seems like a change.

Comments

[errantember.livejournal.com]

I understand. I'm not sure I'll be getting to any non-Austin burn events this year, either. I'm re-arranging my life to make that kind of travel more possible in the future, but it will likely take a while to ramp that up.

I'm still interested in a working definition of monogamy for our discussion.

[kiki39.livejournal.com]

For discussion purposes, I usually define a poly relationship as one including either physical or emotional intimacy, or both, with more thanone person at a time where all persons involved are aware and in agreement. Take out "more than" and add "only" and that's monogamy? That's an awkward definition, I know, but I just woke up from a nap in the sunshine. I'm happy to toss this back and forth and refine it 'cause then I can use it for my Poly 101's!

I been talking to some of my local friends here about going to the Big Burn at some point. We have local recomp/decomp but they're not on Vancouver Island and I've not yet made it to a Victoria event. Someday soon...