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errantember) wrote2009-05-29 02:26 am
errantember) wrote2009-05-29 02:26 am
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Prejudice
I was floating my mind over my general feelings about monogamy, and I finally arrived at a short opinion that I feel is correct.
No one has ever achieved happiness *because* of monogamy.
No couple has ever achieved happiness *because* of monogamy.
Discuss.
NOTE: This is basically a thought experiment rather than a perceived basic truth. My goal in defending the statement, if I have one, is to define the shape and limits of this idea in my mind, discover how well it meshes or conflicts with other ideas, and learn something about the assumptions we all make about relationships. I'm definitely *not* proposing that one relationships style is necessary better or more appropriate for everyone. More power to anyone who finds a style of loving relationship that makes them happy and successful, including those who identify it as monogamy.
SECOND NOTE: Did they change the editor? It took me like 10 minutes to figure out how to get an lj-cut to work, when in the past it has always just worked. The editor was trying to escape it out for some reason, and that seems like a change.
No couple has ever achieved happiness *because* of monogamy.
Discuss.
NOTE: This is basically a thought experiment rather than a perceived basic truth. My goal in defending the statement, if I have one, is to define the shape and limits of this idea in my mind, discover how well it meshes or conflicts with other ideas, and learn something about the assumptions we all make about relationships. I'm definitely *not* proposing that one relationships style is necessary better or more appropriate for everyone. More power to anyone who finds a style of loving relationship that makes them happy and successful, including those who identify it as monogamy.
SECOND NOTE: Did they change the editor? It took me like 10 minutes to figure out how to get an lj-cut to work, when in the past it has always just worked. The editor was trying to escape it out for some reason, and that seems like a change.
Re: disagreement
Whhat's the quote? "Over a long enough timeline the survival rate for anything drops to 0." Something like that.
Humans are capable of a lot of self delusion when it comes to keeping a roof over their heads, clothes on their backs, and food in their bellies.
People are capable of a HELL of a lot of self delusion when it comes to keeping their genitals happy.
With enough repression and denial, any lifestyle choice is work-able.
Polyamory provides a better opportunity for honesty, but also more opportunities for insanity, if that's what the people involved decide to do with it.
don't mind me, I'm just pokin' stuff with sticks to see what kind of icky goo I can get to come out.
Re: disagreement
Unless the goo is lube, definitely a possibility in the case of denial. Then we might be in trouble.