Fleeing from hot female attention...

[errantember]

I've noticed since opening up myself I'm much more sensitive to creep-factor stuff than I used to be. I was at Elysium the other night, and I had two women in a row who were giving off strong "I'm needy and want you to rescue me and make me feel good" vibes paying attention to me in the space of about 20 minutes. A few years ago I would have been cavorting in the halls because I was getting a come-on from two attractive women. The first one was somewhat diffused by the arrival of her friends, but the second one, who was drop-dead gorgeous and in one of the most distracting bondage outfits I'd ever seen, starting taking down her hair while looking into my eyes after she noticed me watching her. As soon as I got the eye contact I saw that desperation staring back at me. And I did something I've never done in a club before. I got up and walked out. Just went home. Not because I was actually afraid, because I wasn't. And I didn't feel like I was driven out of somewhere I wanted to be, because I was already thinking about leaving soon. I left because I didn't want to deal with their bullshit. I had other priorities, and propping up their needy egos wasn't among them. I also didn't want to be put in a position to bring that up to them, because I've been where they are and hearing that from external sources is awful.

I think leading a poly lifestyle tends to increase this kind of sensitivity, because one gets better at seeing beneath the mask and reading what people are really like. I'm definitely grateful for it, as it's helping me filter out a lot of people I might otherwise have wasted time on.

Comments

[lynnivere.livejournal.com]

Hallelujah for self healing and personal growth!
Amen.. amen!

[agua-miel.livejournal.com]

As soon as I got the eye contact I saw that desperation staring back at me
You're the second person to comment on the recent arrivals of desperate women at Elysium.
Sometimes I wonder if I ever had that desperation in my eyes at one point or another. I think so. If so , how embarassing.

I had other priorities, and propping up their needy egos wasn't among them. I also didn't want to be put in a position to bring that up to them, because I've been where they are and hearing that from external sources is awful.

Yeah it is supremely awful...but necesarry. I was so grateful when that was brought to my attention, I had no idea I was coming across that way. Needless to say, I was mortified.
And that kicked my ass into line, real quick.

I missed your call, I passed out early. I can hear the soft cooing of Bouldin Creek in the distance...Mmmmmmm. Nummies.

To be fair...

[errantember.livejournal.com]

The woman in the bondage gear my have been deliberately letting her vunerability show as part of her submissive act. If I had more dom experience, I might have behaved differently. :)

Hmmm...

[belin-ann.livejournal.com]

I'm not so good at reading people in that in small space of time, so kudos to you. Then again I can't remember if I've ever approached a complete stranger, so I usually have some inkling to what kind of energy they're broadcasting. It's not fool proof. :p