An Experiment

[errantember]

Today I'm going to stay out of other people's heads. Until I go to bed, as soon as I catch myself imagining what someone else is thinking, I will stop.

Comments

[lorelein.livejournal.com]

Why?

[errantember.livejournal.com]

I spend a lot of time and emotional bandwidth running simulations of what I think other people are thinking. It leads to tiredness and self consciousness and distraction. It also rewards people who *expect* one to always try to guess what they're thinking. Not doing it forces them to actually *ask* for the things they want, and communicate clearly.

[jslorentz.livejournal.com]

I like this last point. I don't mind being adaptive and having adaptive people in my life, but often if no one speaks up, that adaptation becomes expectation and communication never improves.

[errantember.livejournal.com]

Thanks. It definitely the expectation that's the problem.

Day two is going at least as well as day one.